Children a blessing or a curse part 2

As I said in my last post I learned from going through most of the adoption process that everyone wants babies under 2 not kids.  The reason most said was cause so much of who you are is developed in those two years.  They make a good point so how do we get the children into good homes befor they end up inthe system costing everyone.  First we need to make having a baby mean more.  My wife and I have a friend who does foster care and the hardest thing about it is they try to reunite children with parents who have abused or neglected them.  She almost adopted a little girl and at the last minute they took her away because the grandmother who had shown no interest befor decided she wanted her.  It broke our friends heart.  This futher showed me what a blessing children are.  Sadly the blessing doesnt always come at the best time so those who recieve it dont relize what they have.  To help with this we need to work toward the strong families that made this country great. To do this we need to look at some stats.  In April 2009, the National Center for Health Statistics announced that nearly 40 percent of babies born in the United States in 2007 were delivered by unwed mothers.   The 1.7 million out-of-wedlock births, out of 4.3 million total births.  I think we foster this through the many programs we offer to single mothers.  For that reason we should set a standard that if you have a child out of wedlock and dont put the child up for addoption you loose eligability for all government programs and if you can prove parurnity and show you let the father know so does he.  Since there is a high number of teen births we would need to lower the marriage age to 14.  Though I dont agree with such a young marriage age it would give girls who got pregnant young an option.  With a hope that this leads a third of the girls to get married and another third to put their children up for adoption this still leaves a bit now on to the savings.  With 1.7 million mabey half can prove the father so that in another 850,000 for a total of 2.55 million.  Of that I guessed a third would get married about 850,000 and another third would put the children up for adoption 850,000 leaving 850,000.  Using the same numbers from other posts of population of 307,006,550 that is about 0.25% of the population with entitlements being 58% of the budget that is about 0.16% of the budget.  With the budget at $3.818 trillion that is about $6.13 billion.  That doesn't include the benifit of two parent homes and more abel families for the children put up for adoption.  This is a win win.  Thank for reading check in soon.