Divorce sucks

My brother is one of the nicest people in the world.  As I see what he has to go through to see his son it got  to thinking how much divorce sucks.  Though his new girlfriend is way awesome and his ex wife to be nice wasn't a good person.  She left when he got sick.  It turned out he has brain cancer.  To make things worse she served the papers on Fathers Day.  She wasn't very nice during the marriage to my brother but him being the amazing person he is was willing to put up with it for there son.  She wasn't willing to be married to an amazing guy because he was sick.  This made me think how could we help good people avoid the pain of divorce.  It is often said women care more about marriage but they file for divorce two thirds of the time.  This is not the smartest thing for women to do because there are a lot of stats that show women do worse after divorce and man do better.  Though this isn't enough to have women stick around.  I feel we need more reasons to stay.  Though I do feel bad for those who divorce for good reasons like abuse that is not a reason for people like my brother to be hurt.  So I think that the one who files needs to loose more.  First if you file you can not get more then 25% of the assets.  Second they receive less consideration for custody.  The third part is where the the money saving for everyone comes in the one who files looses access to all government entitlements.  Now to how much we save, last year 0.34% of the population got divorces.  Half if those filed or 0.17% and if this cut divorce in half again that in 0.085%.  Now using the 58% spent on entitlements and the 2012 budget of $3.818 trillion the savings would be $1,882,274,000.  Not as much as some of my plans but this doesn't count the other benefits of less divorce.